An Open Letter to Hope Hicks

I was walking out of a meeting when I glanced at an article on my phone claiming you had defended Rob Porter’s character in light of abuse allegations. Not knowing the full story, or honestly even who you were, my stomach sank.  I was immediately reminded of the years I spent trying to help my ex-husband escape the consequences of his former fiancees’ abuse claims, which had led to several criminal charges I believed couldn’t have possibly been true.  He had told me about the relationships, and the women’s’ psychosis, and came across as the perfect victim.  Continue Reading


There is a huge campaign out right now from, an organization dedicated to helping college-aged young adults understand the warning signs of abuse.  The campaign is centered around identifying abusive behavior justified by love.

Using the excuse “Because I love you…”, abusive partners find a way to justify their irrational behavior to themselves and to their victims.  I was asked at a speaking event recently if I thought my ex-husband knew what he was doing, or if he really felt his behavior was justified. Continue Reading