I have been struggling since I was, myself, a victim, with how to connect survivors and victims of domestic abuse.  I wrote an article a few months ago about the challenge of reaching out, and since then have been trying to find a way to overcome the logistic and emotional obstacles that keep victims from seeking help, and keep survivors from sharing their stories.

I made it a point from the beginning to share my story, because I know how much it would have helped me to hear as many “success” stories as possible, when I was feeling guilty, afraid, and less than confident about what I knew in my heart was right.  In the past year, I have had an opportunity to share not only on this blog, but also in a variety of other venues including social science classes, and one-on-one coffees and phone calls with those currently struggling.  In hearing from victims, survivors, and loved ones of those affected by abuse, I have heard on several occasions a word I would have never thought to be associated with what I am doing…hero.  While I knew it was helpful to share, I would have never thought sharing a story could have such an impact, or be such an inspiration.  I am truly humbled, but more so encouraged and empowered to grow the community of survivors sharing stories.

That said, there are a few large obstacles I have found, keeping survivors from sharing- fear, guilt, shame, and a reluctance to re-live a terrible moment (or years of moments).  To those who want to share, but want to remain anonymous, I think I have a solution.

I am looking for brave survivors to share their stories anonymously.  I have drafted a submission form to guide your thought process.  If you have been through an abusive relationship, you know the denseness of the fog.  Be an example of strength, resilience, and empowerment for those who are still lost.  My goal is to form a repository of stories from all kinds of men and women of all ages and backgrounds.  

If you want to learn more, please head over to read my Heroes Overview for Survivors

If you are ready to help already, complete the Hero Submission!  If you have any questions along the way, please feel free to contact me.

 


Meet the Heroes

Rae
I had just separated from my husband who was a closet alcoholic. I was reconnecting with a girlfriend of mine…
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Kwin
I first met my ex boyfriend around 2010 at a bar out with my friends. We were at a mutual…
Read more.
Frances
I was 21 and had just graduated from college when I met my ex-husband.  We met online, and I remember…
Read more.


Contact the Heroes

If heroes are available for direct contact, a contact form will be listed on their hero page.  If you have a general question, or a specific question for one of the heroes and cannot safely use email, please submit your question below.  It will be collected, answered, and posted on a public question forum on this website.  Every question will be answered.

**Please only submit your email address if it is safe for you to receive emails.  If you are currently in an abusive or unhealthy situation, we recommend not providing this information with your question.**